When the Cross is more than just a symbol

Photo credit: Stuart Gradon, Calgary Herald.

For Flory D’Souza the Outdoor Way of the Cross is a family affair. 

Her father Antonio Carvalho carried the cross in the procession a few months before he died. At 91, with a cane in one hand, the cross on his opposing shoulder, he carried the cross right to the very end of his life. 

“I took a picture of him carrying the last station of the Cross and I got it printed while he was in the hospital. Everyone could not believe that was my Dad,” said Flory, picturing the scene four years ago.  

“For him it was just because he was a man of faith and I think a little way of saying: Jesus I’m helping you carry your cross and carrying my own cross with His. It gave him fulfilment in being part of the Good Friday event,” said Flory.   

For 20 years Flory’s parents Antonio and Annie made the Good Friday pilgrimage through the city. Now at 83, Annie is unable to participate anymore, but Flory fondly remembers how important this pilgrimage was for her parent’s spiritual lives — a spiritual practice she plans to carry on. 

“When my dad was interviewed by a reporter he was asked: ‘You are such a small man and you carry such a heavy Cross?’ His answer was: ‘My Jesus helps me.’ I thought what a sweet answer,” said Flory. 

“When I’ve carried the cross I’ve found it heavy, but I think it’s the weight of our sins that makes it heavier,” she said. 

“It has helped us know that we all have a cross to carry, but Jesus helps us to carry that cross. And He never gives us a cross too heavy to carry. It helps our faith, to go on and trust in God and be thankful that Jesus did what He did for us to be free.”  

Flory has carried the Cross a number of times and has consistently attended the pilgrimage for the last decade. Since she has never been to the Holy Land she sees this as her opportunity to walk in the footsteps of Christ.  

“This just means so much. The stations take you to human suffering. It was Jesus’ suffering in Calvary, but here in every station is some kind of human suffering and you are made aware of it,” she said.  

Flory is no stranger to suffering. Two years after her father’s death, her husband John suddenly died at the age of 57.  

“My strong Catholic faith, thanks to my parents, has helped me cope with my cross in life and these great losses,” she said.

Flory immigrated on her own to Calgary 30 years ago from Kenya. Of her five siblings, she sponsored her sister in 1992 and three years later her parents. Then eight years ago she sponsored her brother Alex Carvalho. He volunteers with crowd control for the pilgrimage.  

From humble beginnings, the Outdoor Way of the Cross has grown to attract between 2,500 and 3,500 pilgrims, some from other faith traditions. And more than 200 volunteers help keep it running smoothly. 

In the early days, people rushed to try and carry the cross, scrambling to get a chance, whereas today cross bearers and readers register in advance for each station. 

Bishop Emeritus Fred Henry always participated in the pilgrimage and Bishop William McGrattan has participated every time since his installation. He opens with a prayer and then helps carry the cross from the first to the second station. 

“In making the Way of the Cross we rediscover through this devotional prayer that Jesus has identified with those who have suffered, fallen in their lives, and who are burdened by many crosses,” said Bishop McGrattan.  

“This Good Friday, let this witness of our Christian faith unite us to Christ in hope and in our outreach to those who suffer.”

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Written by Sara Francis