It started with a handshake.

Not a debate. Not an argument. Just an invitation.

On a recent episode of Heroic Hotline, I sat down with longtime friend and ministry leader Richard Beaulieu to follow up on a conversation about what we call “handshake outreach,” the simple, human act of inviting a man into something meaningful.
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What followed was a story neither of us planned to tell, but one that captured exactly what that outreach can look like when it is patient, relational, and rooted in trust. 

A tap on the shoulder

Richard spoke about a friend he had known for years, a self-described atheist. “He would say he was an atheist,” Richard said, “but he would also tell these childhood stories.”

The stories always returned to one memory in particular, his grandfather, a Russian Orthodox priest, with long vestments and a long gray beard. “He would talk about it like it was nonsense,” Richard said. “But there was something endearing about the way he told it.”

The friend also spoke of a fleeting moment with Jesus as a young man, an experience that came and went, and later joining a church baseball team. Once the season ended, so did church.

Richard did not push his friend. He did not argue theology. He simply listened.

And then came the tap. 

“I just thought, maybe if he walked into a Catholic church again,” Richard said, “he might feel that love he sensed when he was a kid.” So he bought him a ticket.
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An invitation to come and see

The invitation was to the God Squad Men’s Conference. “Come,” Richard told him. “What’s the worst that can happen? You get a free lunch.”

The conference that year carried a weighty theme, Memento Mori, remember your death. Speakers included Father Raymond de Souza and Deacon Harold Burke-Sivers, whose invitation to “come home to the Church” left a deep impression.

“For him,” Richard said, “it was a mountaintop experience.” 

“All of a sudden, the fog breaks, and there they are.”

​Walking with him after the high

Richard knew the experience could not stand alone. “You don’t leave a man floundering after that,” he said. “You journey with him.”

So the next invitation came, an Alpha program at their parish. Dinner included. No pressure. Still, something had shifted.  

The man was not ready to be prayed over. He was not ready for RCIA. But he was hungry. “I want more,” he told Richard.

He began attending RCIA just to explore. Then Mass. Then blessings during Communion. “A year earlier, he said, ‘No, it wouldn’t feel right,’” Richard said. “Now he was going up.”

Eventually, he said the words Richard had been waiting for, “I want to receive.”

At 70 years old, after a long RCIA process that included canonical complications, the man was baptized at the Easter Vigil on April 19, 2025.

“He used to call himself ‘one of the others,’” Richard said, referencing the labourers in the vineyard who arrive late but receive the same wage.

“He felt guilty about that,” Richard said. “Until he began to understand God’s unfathomable mercy.”

Memento Mori

That joy was soon tested.

In August, the man was diagnosed with aggressive cancer. By October 18, he had passed away. “He was part of the Church militant for six months,” Richard said.

His wife later told Richard that without faith, he would have been an angry patient, frustrated with doctors, with her, and with the world. “Instead,” Richard said, “he had peace. All the time.” A supernatural peace. “The only kind that can be inspired by faith.”

Richard connected the story to an account from the French Revolution, of religious sisters who went to their deaths with peace and forgiveness. “Only a faith inspired by courage could allow them to die that way,” he said.

The same courage, he believed, marked his friend’s final months. 

“Memento mori,” Richard added. “Remember your death.”

One more soul

The message Richard left with listeners was simple. “I always pray for one more soul,” he said. “Just one more than yesterday.”  

“Who’s the man in your life you need to tap on the shoulder? Buy him a coffee. Invite him. Walk with him.”

Submitted by Sean Lynn, God Squad / Heroic Men Canada.

Diocesan renewal is alive and well in Medicine Hat.

The process of making Missionary Disciples has been ongoing in Medicine Hat for some time now, with the local Men's ministry utilizing the TMIY (That Man is You) resources and currently in its 12th year. This year's retreat theme was "Prayer, Basic Training," and a silent men's retreat was held earlier this month at Holy Family Parish, on March 8-9, 2024. 

Deacon Robert Risling, the coordinator of the TMIY program, and Lindsay Heier, MA, a core team leader, delved into the history of the Desert Fathers and prayer traditions from Eastern and Western Catholicism. They taught participants to "Breathe with both lungs of the Church" (a quote by St. Pope John Paul II) to help them develop a rule of prayer.
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"To be successful in life, one must be intentional; one must both make and keep a plan; the spiritual life is no different. During the retreat, over 30 men who were eager to improve their prayer lives immersed themselves in a silent, contemplative, monastic experience of prayer. This is not an easy task in the noise-filled environment we're accustomed to." shared Deacon Robert.

This men's retreat has drawn significant praise from its attendees. Deacon Robert and Lindsay offered profound spiritual insights that resonated deeply with the participants.
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Bob Anderson, a participant, expressed his appreciation for the retreat's focus on internal perspective and humility. "The perspective we learned is that the development of a prayer rule is not because we are advanced but because we are weak," he said. Anderson emphasized the importance of prayer as a reaction to God's grace and a means of assimilating its content within ourselves. "Prayer is natural, yet mysterious, ordinary yet mystical, simple but supernatural," he added. Anderson concluded by highlighting prayer's role in instilling hope and strengthening faith, thus eliminating the fear of the past, present, and future.

Mike Rae shared how the retreat was an inspirational godsend for him. "The retreat opened my eyes, heart, and mind to how lacking my prayer life was," he confessed. Leaving the retreat, Rae felt inspired to devote more time to God, describing the experience as unique, inspirational, and educational. Robert Rae appreciated the pairing of monastic elements with theology and practical tools for improving prayer life. He described the retreat as a blessing that offered both spiritual and practical direction, emphasizing the need to slow down and give what is due to the Lord in our busy lives.

Ray Bosch found alignment in the retreat with Pope Francis' Jubilee Year of Prayer. He particularly appreciated the focus on prayer and the use of "Lectio Divina" to prepare hearts. "I believe the Word of God unified us as we all draw on the same source of living water that gives life to our souls," he said. Bosch also highlighted the impact of the silent retreat, which allowed time to savor and digest the richness of prayer.

Blaine Nowicki described the retreat as a great experience and very informative. "I not only learned so much about different ways to pray, but also how to apply it to my prayer life and become closer to Jesus," he said.

The feedback from these attendees underscores the profound impact of the Men's Lenten Retreat. It was not only a source of spiritual insight but also a platform for personal growth and improvement in their prayer lives. As the participants' testimonials indicate, the retreat has been instrumental in inspiring and guiding them towards a more fulfilling and profound relationship with God.

Contributor: Deacon Robert. Deacon Robert was ordained in 2002 by Bishop Frederick Henry. He has been serving at Holy Family Parish in Medicine Hat for 22 years and has also been a trustee for the Medicine Hat Catholic Board of Education for 10 years. Deacon Robert has been married for 33 years and has four children and three grandchildren.

​Photos credit: Deacon Robert Riesling.