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When Life Leaves Us Broken: the Hope of Purgatory

10/27/2020

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The painful truth is that I never knew my grandfather, at least in any way that a grandchild should. My grandfather went overseas to fight in the first world war, full of pride. But he returned, like so many other young men, broken in spirit. In the years after his marriage to my grandmother, life afforded him little opportunity beyond labour as a brick layer. He tried to be a man of faith, but with every bottle he drank, his sense of worth diminished. When his body finally became too tired to work, his waning years disappeared before the television screen, his mind consumed by his addiction. Whatever mercy he asked for in his final days, there is no doubt he carried tremendous pain to the grave.

How many of us carry the memories of those whose stories leave us with no tale of redemption, no dramatic moment of grace to close the curtain of life, no bright ray of hope shining on their horizon. We are left sorting through the broken dreams and fractured relationships to find a goodness we can hold up, something to tell us this life meant something.

During the month of November, the Church encourages the faithful to spend 30 days praying for the dead. Pope Francis has said: “Church tradition has always urged prayer for the dead, in particular by offering the celebration of the Eucharist for them: It is the best spiritual help that we can give to their souls, particularly to the most abandoned ones.”
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It is in the words of his predecessor, Benedict XVI, where I find great hope in the gift of purgatory, the time when God purifies those souls who long to know the peace of His eternal presence, but still carry the scars and sin of this life on earth. Benedict XVI offers these words for us:
Purgatory basically means that God can put the pieces back together again. That he can cleanse us in such a way that we are able to be with him and can stand there in the fullness of life. Purgatory strips off from one person what is unbearable and from another the inability to bear certain things, so that in each of them a pure heart is revealed, and we can see that we all belong together in one enormous symphony of being.”
My grandfather lost a part of his soul on the battlefields. In this month to come, I will be praying that God, even now, is putting the pieces back together again, through His holy fire cleansing and making my grandfather whole in spirit, so he can at last rest eternally at peace in the presence of our Holy God. And for my own penance, for the times I have walked by the broken and depressed, and have not thought to share the hope found in Christ’s redemption,

​I will give alms this month in support of veterans who are still living through the trauma of war for the sake of my freedom. Have mercy on us all, O Lord, and lead us safely Home.

Written by Lance Dixon, Director of Campus Ministry at St. Mary's University
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Sr. Madeleine Gregg, fcJ
10/30/2020 04:33:43 pm

Dear Lance,
I found myself so touched by what you've written. As a person who is the only person of faith in my family--I became a Catholic when I was baptized at age 20--I, too, know the pain of having loved ones who have gone to God, who were never able to open themselves to redemption and who died with regrets. For me, too, November is a special month of prayer. What a blessing that the Church offers us all a chance to pray for the souls of the departed--even those who were not "faithful departed." God's mercy is beyond anything we can think or imagine and so the invitation to trust God even with the destiny of those who would seem to be excluded gives me great comfort. Thank you so much for writing this piece. In companionship, Sr. Madeleine, fcJ

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Bob Morgan
10/30/2020 05:24:58 pm

Thank you Lance for a very thoughtful observation on how war can diminish the human spirit. I think of the veterans who have come back from Afghanistan with PTSD. tt is fortunate that the federal veterans dept. has resources for these individuals if they can use them I saw a film on this at the Marda Loop Film Festival once and there are commercials on tv promoting it. But I doubt your grandfather had much of any good and useful psychological support. Only God knows how difficult it can be to deal with war and other psychological traumas ie natural disasters. We rely on understanding and his mercy when our own resources are insufficient. Thank you

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