The weight of fatherhood: A reflection on St. Joseph and modern challenges

Father's Day began as it usually does for me: I woke up early, enjoyed my coffee, and listened to Jeff Cavins’ daily reflection as part of my morning routine. This particular Father’s Day was filled with warm messages from my children and grandchildren. Attending Mass with my family, including my two-and-a-half-year-old twin granddaughters, added a special touch to the day.

​During the service, I held one of my granddaughters so she could see the procession and opening prayers. Before long, she nestled her head on my shoulder and fell asleep. It had been quite some time since I held a sleeping child for that long; my youngest is nearly 20. As the Mass progressed and her weight grew heavier in my arms, I found myself reflecting on the deeper weight of fatherhood and what it truly means to create a secure environment where a child can rest peacefully.

Echoes of St. Joseph
​My thoughts drifted to St. Joseph fleeing to Egypt with the child Jesus. I imagined him, acutely aware of the dangers ahead, the uncertainty of the road, and his unwavering commitment to protect and provide for his family. Similarly, I reflected on how my own children had often felt secure enough to fall asleep in my arms, blissfully unaware of the struggles my wife, Michele, and I faced. This reminded me of our duty to protect their innocence against the world's misleading influences.

Honouring the Past, Embracing the Present
After Mass, the girls woke up happy and refreshed, ready for brunch. Before heading home, we made a meaningful stop at my stepmother’s house to replace the Canadian flag that my late father used to fly. The old flag was worn and faded. My brother and his family joined us, and I had the honour of lowering the old flag and raising the new one, sharing the moment with all my children through a video call. It was a small but powerful way to honour my dad, and mark Father’s Day in his memory.

Modern Challenges and Pro-Life Convictions
Later that day, we welcomed a visitor, my granddaughters’ father. My daughter wants him to be involved in their lives, and we’re supporting her in that choice. Like many families, we've had to navigate some difficuflt conversations. Early on, there was uncertainty around the pregnancy, and perspectives differed. Those moments weren’t easy, but they deepened our own commitment to stand for life. We recognized the need to support our daughter and provide a safe environment for her to raise her children. 

​That evening, our pastor, Fr. Fabio, joined us for supper. The house was full, full of movement, laughter, and the sound of the twins running joyfully through their grandparents’ home. It wasn’t a perfect picture, but it was real, and filled with grace. It is a reminder that even in complicated situations, God is present, quietly working through love, forgiveness, and the slow building of trust.

Reflecting God’s Love
The weight of fatherhood is ever-present as we strive to reflect the love of God the Father to our children. We often fall short, and recognize that we can always do better. Reflecting on St. Joseph’s journey to Egypt, I wonder how he persevered, facing the unknown with a young Jesus running and laughing, oblivious to the dangers, yet protected by a loving father on earth and in heaven.

Conclusion

Father’s Day provided a poignant reminder of the joys and challenges of fatherhood. From the simple act of holding a sleeping child to navigating complex family dynamics, the role of a father is a profound reflection of God’s love and protection. As we honour the fathers in our lives, let us also remember the example of St. Joseph, who faced uncertainty with unwavering faith and love, ensuring the safety and well-being of his family.

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Writen by Sean Lynn, God Squad Canada & Heroicmen